Ms. Shivalika, a 21 years old girl with a golden and brave heart, a fighter and a strong soul, who took the initiative to speak on the abuse she witnessed in the relationship. She is using Instagram as a medium to raise awareness and inspire people to speak on such sensitive topics.
Loving can be blissful, cheerful, colourful and a lifelong memory but sometimes that’s not the outcome of love. Being in love and getting loved by a person is a blessing but sometimes it can lead to a scary path which we don’t ever think of. Watching bollywood movies and web series we always thought loving a person and starting a new life with them can lead to a beautiful story. But sometimes we don’t even know the intention of our significant other. Being abused in a relationship, we are always taught to keep silent and not to tell anyone because we are the one who’s responsible for our actions and what other people are going to say about us. 
Only some people take a stand and have the courage to speak on such topics. We are grateful that we got a chance to share one of the stories of our fighter who’s trying to change the view of people to speak on such sensitive topics. Meet Ms. Shivalika, a 21 years old, brave girl who took the initiative to speak on the abuse which she faced and try to make everyone speak about that. She’s currently in the final year of engineering and an aspiring candidate of the Indian army. In the future, She wants to serve our nation. The love story or we can say scary story of her life started when she was in college.
She was dating a senior from her college but a different branch. In the starting he was fine but then slowly he started being too controlling. On occasions he would lose his temper, he hit and abused her. But after everything he would apologize and she would let it slide. Just like we normally do because we love the person and in love people become blind. Until last year when she was staying with him. Things turned differently.
While she was doing her internship she was staying with her boyfriend. It was sweet and loving, they hunted the house together, decorated it and all. He always dropped her off at work and picked her up when she was done. One day she was waking him up as she got ready because she was running late. He finally woke up angrily and asked her to take a cab because he was sleepy. She got pissed, If he had told her before she wouldn’t have wasted her time in waking him up. She left the house angrily and slammed the door.
Then he woke up and pulled her inside the house forcefully and slapped her. He started shouting for slamming the door. When she told him he’s overreacting, he continued shouting and started cursing her and her family. She shouted back at him. He didn’t like that and threw her on the bed, her head hit the wall hard, he tried to choke her by grabbing her neck. When she shouted for help he put his hands on her mouth in a way that she couldn’t breathe. She bit his hand so that he would remove it. It worked but again he pulled her and bit her back so hard that it bled and left marks for days.
Finally, when his anger settled. She got up and saw herself in the mirror. Face full of bruises so were the arms and neck. She went to the kitchen to get some water, and he followed her. Passed a filthy comment to her to which she replied and he didn’t like it. He again kicked her from behind. The counter corner hit her pelvic. It still hurts sometimes when she does basic tasks.
She cried out loud but that didn’t stop him. He continued to hit her again, she tried to defend herself but it didn’t work. Her head was banged many times on the wall, she was grabbed by the neck. She begged him to let her go. She really thought that she would die that day.
Finally she returned home, started having therapy sessions, her family and friends have always been there for her and now after a year since that incident she’s the best version of herself with a stable mental space with a loving and understanding partner. Sometimes still the thought of crossing paths with him scares her but she knows no harm will happen as She’s not alone this time.
Due to this incident she faced severe PTSD, trust issues, not being able to express. Love is blissful but after a break-up we don’t know how it will affect our mental health. Just like the normal human, she even faced the same mental health issues.
Her previous self was her inspiration. All her friends just reminded her how she used to be before that relationship and she should not let him still have control of her life. She started with making reels on her small incidents when a lot of people replied saying they were related. That gave her a little strength that She’s not alone. She shared her story for the people who are going through the same thing but they are unable to raise their voice. It’s for them to know that it’s not the end. Things will get better with time and they should not give up. She’s the perfect example of, “when life gives you lemon, you can make lemonade”.
A special message from her side
Always keep yourself as a priority and then anyone else. Know your worth and if your partner is doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable or unsafe. Point it out that moment before it’s late.
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