Hello There!!
I’m sharing one of the incidents from my childhood. I know it’s kind of silly but shows the dark and harsh truth of our life. I was a teenager and had nothing knowledge about menstruation, puberty or sex education. I know sex education is still taboo in our home and we can’t speak on such topics. We can’t speak loudly or speak about periods because it’s supposed to be secret. Men can buy sanitary napkins for their wives, daughters, sisters or mothers but they are not allowed to hear the word “Periods”.
One day I was enjoying the weekend with my siblings and I felt sudden sharp pain in my stomach. I felt the urge to pee and I ran to the washroom. When I started to pee I saw spots of blood in the washroom, I got scared and I felt something happened to me. I started panicking and felt like I had a serious disease. I was so afraid of blood. When I had my period and saw that my whole body started shivering. I flushed the toilet and came into my room. I started finding my mother but she wasn’t there. I ran to my elder sister and she was sitting with my father. I told them that I’m going to die, I’m having a serious disease and I’m going to die in an hour. They asked me what happened and I shared the incident. My sister and my father’s expressions changed, they became awkward and my sister pulled me to another room. She explained to me that this is “Periods” and you can’t share this with your father. She helped me with the pads and explained everything to me. They made me cut the rope like ribbon cutting. That night, our sanitary pads were finished and I told this to my mom. My mother told my father to purchase one and I asked my mother, “if I can’t speak about periods, then why do you tell father to purchase a new packet?”, For this she replied, “It’s not your job, Go!”. After the period incident, my mother gave me sex education, she told me from this you’re becoming a woman and this is the risky age. In this stage you’re going to meet many people, you’re going to make male friends but don’t go close to them because in this stage your body is having a kind of bacteria and boys are having same kind of bacteria on their body, if you hug or kiss them that bacteria will infect your body and you’ll become pregnant, you have to stay away from men and if you want to be healthy maintain at least 10 meter distance from them. And for this imaginary story I believed. I was behaving weird around my male friends but when I was studying the reproduction chapter in my biology, I got to know the real fact but it was not clear. One of my cousins gave me the proper knowledge about this. Today I felt that sex education at early age are so important because children are budding flowers and if you seed wrong information into them it will bloom according to that. Even normalizing purchasing sanitary pads and talking about periods should be allowed in households.
-Unheard voice